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Proverbs 18:20-22 NKJ
A man’s stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth; from
the produce of his lips he shall be filled. DEATH and LIFE are in the
POWER OF THE TONGUE, and those who love it will eat its fruit. He
who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.
Five Levels of Communication:

  1. Cliché: “How are you doing?”
  2. Factual: “Donald Trump is our new president.”
  3. Opinions: “Are you going to wear that?”
  4. Emotions: “I am so tired of the way you treat me!”
  5. Transparent: “Can we talk about what’s really going on in our
    marriage?”

Three Reasons Why People Fail to Communicate Well:

  1. Low self-worth
  2. Fear of criticism or judgment
  3. Internally disconnected

Six Keys to Effective Communication:

  1. Make Jesus your role model.
    Ephesians 5:25-28 MSG
    Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did
    for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love
    makes the church whole. HIS WORDS EVOKE HER BEAUTY.
    Everything he does and SAYS is designed to bring the best out of
    her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that
    is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing
    themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.
  2. Seek to understand one another.
    1 Peter 3:7 AMP
    In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an
    UNDERSTANDING way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an
    intelligent regard for the marriage relationship], as with someone
    physically weaker, since she is a woman. Show her honor and
    respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will
    not be hindered or ineffective.
    You will never believe in someone you don’t understand.
  3. Wait for positive environments before having deeper levels of
    communication.
  4. Learn to value listening.
    James 1:19 AMP
    Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be
    quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a
    speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient,
    reflective, forgiving]…

Listening Involves Four Things:

  1. Eye contact
  2. Affirming words
  3. Repeating what is said
  4. Asking questions
  5. Learn the power of affirmation.
    Ephesians 4:29 NLT
    Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good
    and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those
    who hear them.
  6. Learn to connect together in Spirit.